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During the holiday season, I received a soy massage candle as a gift. During our next intimate encounter with one another, the Hippy Hubby and I decided offhandedly to try it out. I was a little bit apprehensive at first, that pouring hot wax onto my body would be too hot for my skin, but it turns out soy wax burns at a cooler temperature than paraffin wax, so it didn't burn at all. In fact, it was the perfect amount of heat and we had a really fantastic time together. We even found ourselves connecting with one another, even more than usual.
Thinking maybe it was a fluke, we thought it only prudent to follow through with the scientific method and try it out several more times. Oh yeah! It totally rocked each time. I love how close a sensual massage brings two (or more…if that's your thing!) people together. After loving this other candle so much, I knew I could totally make my own sensual soy massage candle. So I set out to create this recipe with vigor (and we made a point to try this one out as well!). This candle would make a great addition to your next special date night or Valentine's love experience. It sure has become a new and fun addition to our bedroom romp time!
Create a sensual experience in your own home
I love the part before our date, where we set everything up and get ready for the evening. During our dinner, while we eat whatever delicious meal we prepared together, I find myself burning with impatience because of the build up from all of the energy we put into creating this time together. You do not need a 5-star hotel or a fancy spa, to have a sensual experience with your lover. These are some of the steps that we employ while setting up for our date night here in the Hippy home:
Set the mood with rose petals – Rose petals are such a great addition to any romantic situation. Revered for centuries, roses are the oldest herbal symbol of love and romance. You can spread these upon your bed, around your home, in the bath, or decorate the home with bowls of dried rose petals for potpourri. To enhance the scent, you can add a couple drops of rose essential oil or absolute to the petals, it will diffuse throughout the room! You can also do this with other lovely flowers as well, such as lavender, chamomile, and jasmine.
SCENTulize your room and pillows – It's a proven fact that scent triggers all sorts of states of mind and it's no different with aphrodisiacs. There are all sorts of methods that you can use to make your home have that sexy scent that sets the mood for you and your partner but these are my two favorite; you can simmer on the stove herbs and water (such as rose petals, cinnamon sticks, vanilla beans, orange peels, etc.) or make your own pillow and room spray using essential oils (The Twilight Gypsy blend is my favorite for a delicious sensual spray!).
Get the music going – I don't know if it's my ADHD brain or if it's just because I always have something that needs to be done, but complete silence can deaden my mood and if there is nothing playing in the background to keep my mind from straying at the moment at hand, I find myself thinking about my to-do list instead. I can't give you advice about what music to pick, since this is something that is totally subjective, but I will say that if you and your partner test the waters with different music in both your playlists, you will find something that really works for you and it can totally help both of you stay focused on one another and your present sensual experience together.
Give a sensual massage – Touch is key to turning up the heat. I find that starting things off in the bedroom with a sensual massage, can really help to get the two of us tuned into one another. Massage is a great way to start the foreplay off! It can help loosen the muscles, inhibitions, and your mood!
Essential oils to get you in the mood
There are quite a few essential oils that have the aphrodisiac action to their name. You can blend these with other sweet ones that you love, such as lavender, geranium, and all of the citrus oils (lime, sweet orange, grapefruit, and bergamot).
- Allspice (Pimenta officinalis)
- Black Pepper (Piper nigrum)
- Cedarwood, Atlas (Cedrus atlantica)
- Cinnamon (Cinnamomum zeylanicum cinnamon bark is best for diffusion and cinnamon leaf is better for topical application)
- Clary sage (Salvia sclarea)
- Coriander (Coriandrum sativum)
- Davana (Artemisia pallens)
- Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorum)
- Mace (Myristica fragans)
- Neroli (Citrus aurantium)
- Nutmeg (Myristica fragrans)
- Rose (Rosa damascena both the absolute and the essential oil)
- Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis)
- Sandalwood (Santalum spicatum)
- Savory, winter (Satureja montana)
- Vanilla (Vanilla planifolia)
- Ylang Ylang (Cananga odorata)
Aurora's Borealis Sensual Soy Massage Candle
You can substitute your own blend of essential oils here, but I have provided you with a version of my own aphrodisiac inducing romance blend, that I like to call Aurora's Borealis.
- 2.5 oz. (weight) soy wax flakes
- .5 oz. (weight) butter (shea butter, mango butter, or cocoa butter all work great!)
- 1 Tbsp. unrefined coconut oil
- 1 Tbsp. Jojoba oil (you can substitute any liquid carrier oil you might have on hand)
- 10 drops MRH lavender essential oil or PT lavender eo
- 10 drops MRH rose absolute or PT rose absolute
- 20 drops MRH grapefruit or PT grapefruit eo
- 2 drops MRH ylang ylang essential oil or PT ylang ylang eo
- 10 drops MRH coriander essential oil or PT coriander eo
- soy wicks
- 4 oz. glass jar (or some other recycled candle jar or mason jar)
- In a double boiler, melt the soy wax flakes, butter, and coconut oil.
- Remove from heat and add jojoba oil and essential oils, stirring to combine.
- Pour wax mixture into containers and then gently set the wick in the middle. I usually have to use one butter knife (flat edge facing a chopstick and you can see below), but if you have another way to hold the wick in the center while it cools, go for it!
HOW TO USE: Light candle and allow it to melt for 5-10 minutes. Immediately extinguish the candle before each use, to maintain the integrity of the massage ingredients. Since soy wax burns cooler than paraffin wax, the candle's liquid pool will not be too hot to massage directly onto your skin. This is great for hands, feet, elbows, and cuticles.
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