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During the holiday season, I received a soy massage candle as a gift. One day before a massage, I decided offhandedly to try it out. I was a little bit apprehensive at first, that pouring hot wax onto my body would be too hot for my skin, but it turns out soy wax burns at a cooler temperature than paraffin wax, so it didn't burn at all. In fact, it was the perfect amount of heat and I really enjoyed it.
Create a sensual experience in your own home
I love the part before a date with The B
Set the mood with rose petals – Rose petals are such a great addition to any romantic situation. Revered for centuries, roses are the oldest herbal symbol of love and romance. You can spread these upon your bed, around your home, in the bath, or decorate the home with bowls of dried rose petals for potpourri. To enhance the scent, you can add a couple drops of rose essential oil or absolute to the petals, it will diffuse throughout the room! You can also do this with other lovely flowers as well, such as lavender, chamomile, and jasmine.
SCENTulize your room and pillows – It's a proven fact that scent triggers all sorts of states of mind and it's no different with aphrodisiacs. There are all sorts of methods that you can use to make your home have that sexy scent that sets the mood for you and your partner but these are my two favorite; you can simmer on the stove herbs and water (such as rose petals, cinnamon sticks, vanilla beans, orange peels, etc.) or make your own pillow and room spray using essential oils (The Twilight Dancer blend is my favorite for a delicious sensual spray!).
Get the music going – I don't know if it's my ADHD brain or if it's just because I always have something that needs to be done, but complete silence can deaden my mood and if there is nothing playing in the background to keep my mind from straying at the moment at hand, I find myself thinking about my to-do list instead. I can't give you advice about what music to pick, since this is something that is totally subjective, but I will say that if you and your partner test the waters with different music in both your playlists, you will find something that really works for you and it can totally help both of you stay focused on one another and your present sensual experience together.
Give a sensual massage – Touch is key to turning up the heat. I find that starting things off in the bedroom with a sensual massage, can really help to get the two of us tuned into one another. Massage is a great way to start the foreplay off! It can help loosen the muscles, inhibitions, and your mood!
Essential oils to get you in the mood
There are quite a few essential oils that have the aphrodisiac action to their name. You can blend these with other sweet ones that you love, such as lavender, geranium, and all of the citrus oils (lime, sweet orange, grapefruit, and bergamot).
- Allspice (Pimenta officinalis)
- Black Pepper (Piper nigrum)
- Cedarwood, Atlas (Cedrus atlantica)
- Cinnamon (Cinnamomum zeylanicum cinnamon bark is best for diffusion and cinnamon leaf is better for topical application)
- Clary sage (Salvia sclarea)
- Coriander (Coriandrum sativum)
- Davana (Artemisia pallens)
- Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorum)
- Mace (Myristica fragans)
- Neroli (Citrus aurantium)
- Nutmeg (Myristica fragrans)
- Rose (Rosa damascena both the absolute and the essential oil)
- Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis)
- Sandalwood (Santalum spicatum)
- Savory, winter (Satureja montana)
- Vanilla (Vanilla planifolia)
- Ylang Ylang (Cananga odorata)
Aurora's Borealis Sensual Soy Massage Candle
You can substitute your own blend of essential oils here, but I have provided you with a version of my own aphrodisiac inducing romance blend, that I like to call Aurora's Borealis.
- 2.5 oz. (weight) soy wax flakes
- .5 oz. (weight) butter (shea butter, mango butter, or cocoa butter all work great!)
- 1 Tbsp. unrefined coconut oil
- 1 Tbsp. Jojoba oil
- 10 drops lavender essential oil
- 10 drops rose absolute
- 20 drops grapefruit essential oil
- 2 drops ylang ylang essential oil
- 10 drops coriander essential oil
- soy wicks
- 4 oz. glass jar (or some other recycled candle jar or mason jar)
- In a double boiler, melt the soy wax flakes, butter, and coconut oil.
- Remove from heat and add jojoba oil and essential oils, stirring to combine.
- Pour wax mixture into containers and then gently set the wick in the middle. I usually have to use one butter knife (flat edge facing a chopstick and you can see below), but if you have another way to hold the wick in the center while it cools, go for it!
Light the candle and allow it to melt for 5-10 minutes. Immediately extinguish the candle before each use to maintain the integrity of the massage ingredients. Since soy wax burns cooler than paraffin wax, the candle's liquid pool will not be too hot to massage directly onto your skin. This is great for hands, feet, elbows, and cuticles.